When I work with couples (or even individuals) I often hear complaints, as you would expect. Almost always, though, within the complaint is an acknowledgement of some success. Usually, the “successes” are down-played and the “failures” are emphasized. However, the fact that they (the successes) are even mentioned shows that they are noted, just dismissed.
My suggestion (and new year’s resolution) is to pay more attention to successes, to progress along the way. The reality is, it will take quite a while to obtain perfection in relationships or in anything. Even when we feel one area has improved, there’s always the next area. So when do we celebrate? Certainly, waiting for perfection is a very long wait! So why not just celebrate along the way? Celebrate each success, each little bit of progress, each effort!
Let’s make 2010 a year to celebrate!